26 days 26 ways of healing, helping, loving, sharing and caring. Here I present to you my second blog post for the #BLOGCHATTERA2Z Challenge starting with the letter ‘B’.
Be you in all ways and always!
How many times in life, you have been cursed for how you are? How you walk, how you talk, what you choose to wear, what you eat, and how you look? I am a very simple living person, a minimalist, who focus on broader aspects of life and stay away from anything and everything which brings nothing but negativity in life. I have stopped paying heed to what others think and how they react to my choices. As in my last post Acceptance, I talked about how accepting our own truth and identifying our inner strengths and weakness makes us a stronger person. I will go ahead while I share how I accepted and chose myself.
Choosing not to please people doesn’t mean that we are choosing to be rude or ignorant. There are times and situation wherein you might feel like the victim of your own circumstances. Initially you let people invade in your space, once they enter, they capture and conquer your territory and you start getting restless, that is the point you exactly understand what went wrong, I am a highly emotional and sensitive person who lets everyone in her life, at least I used to be, a while ago. As I moved on with my life, I experienced a lot of bitterness around, not everyone who appears to be with you is actually with you, not everyone who follows you on social media likes you or loves you. There is a very thin line in between for us to identify and understand it.
You cannot please everyone, you cannot churn yourself to suit everyone’s needs and demand all the time. But something you surely know is what you want for yourself. Right from clothing, to cooking, from working to being a homemaker, from being an engineer to being a photographer, it is entirely your own choice. When I started blogging, no one entertained the idea. Perhaps people use to make fun of my career choice and doubt my abilities to write and sustain for even a few months, today it’s been two years, I have penned over 230 articles and poetries and have been writing regularly and doing fine with what all the minimum efforts I put. When I started my own youtube channel that was the time I faced the real heat, the hate, the negative vibes from my near ones, can’t call them dear ones now 🙂
Not all of my friends are my subscribers, hardly any relative or known person admire my efforts. There exists hardly a few bunch of people who keep me going. Apart from this, I experience episodic criticism from them, what for? Just trying to make some space, an identity for myself? It used to bother me a lot, it used to trap me in a negative zone. But I realized that if I give in for this situation then I would give up on my whole idea of making my own identity which was way bigger than any negative comment or word of criticism I have come across. Hence I stopped listening to them and started to cut loose all the source of toxicity out of my life. I kept limited contact with people and stick to the ones who bring out the best in me.
I swear by this quote of Swami Vivekananda and I read it again and again, there is so much power in these words, which puts an urge inside you to gear up and do something for yourself. It sounds difficult but trust me it is not that difficult to implement once you decide to take the ownership of your mental being. You just have to take charge of your self, help your self when no one else is helping you. Remember, No one gives you the power you have to take it.
Be you in all ways and always!!
Much love and gratitude
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