Controlling our own emotions is like sprinkling salt as per taste, no more no less and if we succeed in striking the right balance, it helps us to be in harmony with our outer and inner state just like a perfect recipe for our taste buds.
Controlling Negative Emotions, my 8th way out of 26 ways of my theme #26days26ways of self-help, self-love, helping and healing, loving and sharing 🙂 #BlogchatterA2Z. Hope you all are liking my ways:)
I will begin by sharing an excerpt from the Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda on controlling negative emotions here. Every vicious thing will rebound, every thought of hatred which you may have thought, in a cave even, is stored up, and will one day come back to you with tremendous power in the form of some misery.
“We might be the master of our own thoughts, yet we are slaves of our emotions”.
If we project jealousy or hatred, it will rebound on us with compound interest, and I think we all have witnessed this in our life. No power can avert such rebound, once we put them in motion we have to bear the consequences of the same.
If we make a note of our doings then maybe we can refrain ourselves from repeating them again in the future.
~ If we hate someone, the hatred will come back to us someday in some form or another.
~ Likewise, if we love someone, we might not receive the love from the same person but in order to chase that love, we overlook many people on the way who were willing to love us unconditionally. It came back but we were not there to receive it.
It is absolutely normal to feel all kinds of emotions under various circumstances but controlling our negative emotions are important for us and we can start by following these three simple practices, even if it doesn’t work for you it won’t take anything from you.
1. Change your Focus
When we shift our focus on the positive aspects of our life, it begins to change. Initially, it appears to be very difficult but focusing on what matters and what brings out the best in us really helps. You will always find people reminding you of your failures and cursing you for your choices in life, but what is done is done and we cannot just undo it, it will only lead to more resentment. Instead, why not focus on making a better tomorrow by living your present moment.
2. Change your Thought Process
If we have been receiving the same result every time we want to do something good for ourselves then maybe it’s time we alter our approach. Every situation and every experience in our life give us either a good experience or a lesson to learn, keep the lesson, learn from it and move on.
3.Change your Reaction/Response
Don’t be entrapped in our own mind, if you have something which is bothering you figure it out, if you need help, yell but just not sit with it. Whenever you are alone and find yourself dwelling into the hounds of the past, alarm yourself to tap out. If you keep on going their, again and again, you will start liking it and trust me then it would be very difficult to return.
It’s not that we lose something when we refrain ourselves from showing such emotions, but we choose to store our energies for better things, for higher gains. Love more, live more with a happy and healthy mind 🙂
Much love and gratitude
The #BlogchatterA2Z series is building up right here 🙂
A-Acceptance B- Be you Always C- Criticism D- Depression E- EGO F- Five ‘S’
G – Gita Saar