So we are halfway through, Yay!! A pat on everyone’s back.
Today on my 13th post and 13th way of dealing with mental disturbances I will be talking about an internal demon we build inside our mind incessantly, causing in unnecessary stress. #26days26ways
We know we are simply procrastinating or overthinking but somehow we find peace in that inner conflict. Someone says something to us and by chance, if we among those you dare to call a spade a spade and is straight forward enough to give it back to the person then it’s the survival instinct.
Then we have a set of people who fail miserably in answering back and standing for themselves and later on, the guilt of not able to cope up with the mechanism becomes suffocating and makes one restless inside their mind and they start seeking closure through these never-ending Mental Arguments.
We think of so many possibilities like, I could have said so, what if I did this? What if they said this? and we create an everlasting conversation in our mind with that situation and the person which results in mental arguments, where we try to please our conscious mind for something which has already happened a long time back or we create an illusion of something which might happen in future.
We think we overthink and we produce something which doesn’t even exist and start living with it. We replay old conversation in our mind and stress our mind. We visualize about saying different things in the argument, imagining how the other person might have responded, or whether adopting different strategies would have worked for us.
What Mental Arguments result in?
When we are in a state of arguments with our family member, peers, friends or anyone, what are the feeling we go through? Anger, frustration, fear, guilt the same happens to us within us when we argue with own mind and the result is unknown to us.
Once I had a great friend for whom I used to work for his social media handles, he is not much aware of the social media workings and since he was my friend I always insisted him to improvise, maybe he didn’t like it and suddenly asked me to leave his online workplace, I was badly hurt, One because I am highly sensitive and emotional person and secondly I was putting all my energy in his work and giving the best results I could in my purview. I said nothing to him.
But since I did not have a closure I could not stop thinking about it, thoughts like what went wrong, what did I do, What was my mistake, then counter questions hit me hard for few days, I stiped writing for few days, I was mentally tired and I felt bad.
One day he came back saying that he was in bad mood an I was continuously throwing new ideas which he was not interested at that point of time and apologized for the same, I got the closure but I never returned back to his work, I politely declined his offer, because that incident cost me my mental health without ay reason.
This is a very small example compared to many big incidents happening with people around causing a ripple of disturbance in their mind.
How can we overcome Mental Arguments?
- Feel your feelings, accept them and reciprocate them, sometimes the inner built just increases with every passing incident.
- Meditate, Inhale and exhale, let in and let go, no it is not easy to say, but also easy to do when you adapt it your daily life.
- Keep yourself occupied, there is a lot we can do to help ourselves, remember? An empty mind is the devil’s workshop?
- I know by this point you will think, it is not easy and the thoughts just don’t leave you, then how about you leaving the thoughts? Remember my Day 8 Post Point No. Three? Change your response 🙂
I will stop here for today, hope any of my ways till now have been helped to think someone in a different direction, in accepting self, loving self, taking care of your inner self, showing some love and kindness to self because, Mental Health Matters.
Much love and gratitude
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