BlogChatter A2Z Challenge Day 8 -How To Control Negative Emotions

Controlling our own emotions is like sprinkling salt as per taste, no more no less and if we succeed in striking the right balance, it helps us to be in harmony with our outer and inner state just like a perfect recipe for our taste buds.

Controlling Negative Emotions, my 8th way out of 26 ways of my theme #26days26ways of self-help, self-love, helping and healing, loving and sharing πŸ™‚ #BlogchatterA2Z. Hope you all are liking my ways:)

I will begin by sharing an excerpt from the Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda on controlling negative emotions here. Every vicious thing will rebound, every thought of hatred which you may have thought, in a cave even, is stored up, and will one day come back to you with tremendous power in the form of some misery.

We might be the master of our own thoughts, yet we are slaves of our emotions”.

If we project jealousy or hatred, it will rebound on us with compound interest, and I think we all have witnessed this in our life. No power can avert such rebound, once we put them in motion we have to bear the consequences of the same.

If we make a note of our doings then maybe we can refrain ourselves from repeating them again in the future.

For example:

~ If we hate someone, the hatred will come back to us someday in some form or another.

~ Likewise, if we love someone, we might not receive the love from the same person but in order to chase that love, we overlook many people on the way who were willing to love us unconditionally. It came back but we were not there to receive it.

It is absolutely normal to feel all kinds of emotions under various circumstances but controlling our negative emotions are important for us and we can start by following these three simple practices, even if it doesn’t work for you it won’t take anything from you.

1. Change your Focus

When we shift our focus on the positive aspects of our life, it begins to change. Initially, it appears to be very difficult but focusing on what matters and what brings out the best in us really helps. You will always find people reminding you of your failures and cursing you for your choices in life, but what is done is done and we cannot just undo it, it will only lead to more resentment. Instead, why not focus on making a better tomorrow by living your present moment.

2. Change your Thought Process

If we have been receiving the same result every time we want to do something good for ourselves then maybe it’s time we alter our approach. Every situation and every experience in our life give us either a good experience or a lesson to learn, keep the lesson, learn from it and move on.

3.Change your Reaction/Response

Don’t be entrapped in our own mind, if you have something which is bothering you figure it out, if you need help, yell but just not sit with it. Whenever you are alone and find yourself dwelling into the hounds of the past, alarm yourself to tap out. If you keep on going their, again and again, you will start liking it and trust me then it would be very difficult to return.

It’s not that we lose something when we refrain ourselves from showing such emotions, but we choose to store our energies for better things, for higher gains. Love more, live more with a happy and healthy mind πŸ™‚

Much love and gratitude
Priyanka
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A-Acceptance B- Be you Always C- Criticism D- Depression E- EGO F- Five ‘S’
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58 comments

  1. Very true Priyanka! It is difficult to control negative emotions but not impossible. It is in our hand, how to react and response over the situation. Wonderful post again.

  2. Focus, Thought Process and Response… the three pillars of being grounded and in control. The fourth is your karma which also helps in avoiding negativity in life. Very appropriately covered and convincingly explained. Your self healing and motivating posts are gems worth a lot of sacrifices in life. Glad you chose this theme for this world needs more aware and confident people to bring some degree of peace and satisfaction.

  3. Very nice post. We must go beyond emotion, specially negative emotion. What goes around, comes around. So if we abuse someone today, someday it may comeback and hit us, when we least expect it.

  4. Loved your video Priyanka. And all three points you mentioned are very valid. Carry an unhappy past is like carrying unwanted baggage. It is just something heavy and is weighing upon us. Similarly trying to curse oneself for not making a correct decision in the past is also useless as there is no time travel machine which can take us back into the past to correct the follies we committed. As you say it is better to concentrate on the present to create a better tomorrow. And as regards anger and hatred and an attitude of revenge they pop up most often when we are alone. All the solutions you have presented are very helpful.

  5. I loved the analogy of salt and the controlling our emotions. You’re so right, Priyanka. Negative emotions have a way to come back to us and when they do, its worse. All of us have gone through it and some point. I believe that changing our response might be tough but it is the most effective way. A positive outlook is a shield that’ll block all negativity and make it bounce right back to where it came from.

  6. I really like how you combine words with the video in spreading positive messages. Indeed negative emotions are the reasons most of us lose out on staying happy and satisfied. If only we change our thoughts and expectations, life would be much simpler and full of positivity. Beautiful series of posts.

    • Yes you are right, I have so many things in my mind, so I use all the mediums to communicate πŸ˜› guess writing wasn’t enough for me. Thanks for readingπŸ’œ

  7. I so needed to read this today. I have been in a blue funk for the past few days, letting my negativity overpower everything . Going to start following your helpful pointers right now. Thanks for this, Priyanka!

  8. Wonderful post. Really it’s very hard to control the negative things which pop out every few minutes. But still learning. Will keep the points you have mentioned in my mind.
    In my views, indirectly they help us to be strong and determine in our life. We just have to figure it out and work on it.

  9. Loved the writing as the video. Bookmarking it. AS negative emotions pop up daily, i need to go through your post again and again to remain positive till positivity becomes my habit. Thanks for sharing.

  10. The three points stated by you are so very true. If we change our focus, perspective and thoughts towards a positive aspect of life things become easier. Loved your video. You have a charming face and a lovely voice.

  11. Wonderful… Small beautiful nuggets of wisdom… I love your videos. They speak Loud.. πŸ™‚
    I guess on our own life journey, there definitely comes a point where one realizes that holding on to grudges or negative emotions are harming ourselves more than anyone else and the whole gamut of negativity is just not worth the beautiful and limited time we have for living. The 3 steps you mentioned definitely are helpful. To add on just fill ur bucket with the positive Karmas alongside these 3… N You are all sorted.

    • Thank you so much for your sweet words of appreciation, it means a lot when we are able to connect with others through our expression.
      Karma point noted πŸ˜ŠπŸ’œ

  12. How we react to the prompts makes way for our lives. Though not easy but negative emotions must be controlled for smooth transition.

  13. Any negative view always gives a negative impact in mind, the suggestions are nice and helpful but the problem is in “change” which actually tough to take place, ego plays a vital role in this issue.

  14. It is a great thought you have showcased. I live on this principle but I dunno how. I don’t spew venom against those who treat me badly or I dont abuse or shout. I feel you are hurting yourself by saying or doing negative things.

  15. So true Priyanka, but that is what makes us human. Positive and negative thoughts are two sides of same coin. We just need to learn balancing.
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