We learn and we grow, I say this all the time to everyone I meet, to everyone I try to encourage and follow their passion. Growing up is not giving up.
Albert Einstein said that “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Hence I test my abilities for myself. I trust in my instincts and I follow my heart.
I listen to everyone, thanks to all the people around us who freely give their unsolicited advices, trying to mock us down with their flare and sometimes they manage to freak us out, but I take NONE.
I write a lot, I read and I even have my YouTube Channel where you will find me speaking a lot but when I am in public I prefer being an observant, I listen and mind my own business.
I meet many people who are good at many things and they so unconvinicingly boast about themselves and their achievements. I can never put my plate full of medals in front of everyone because I believe in being a woman of action and not words.
Here are five things I have learned in last few years which has changed my outlook, perspective and preference.
Five things I learned while growing up
Nothing lasts forever: I think even permanent is not permanent. Things change, people change, situation change and our willingness to acceptance towards any of these elements needs to be changed time to time, only for us to live at peace.
” There is nothing permanent except change”
I had a cool group of friends but as I moved ahead in my career, my new endevours were not much appreciated or welcomed, rather were criticised and mocked up. I was too determined to let it go, my career and instead I let them go.
With the mindset that we think that people will stay forever is one of the major culprit in our life, we let anyone enter easily but when they exit, they leave a vaccum beyond repair. Once we accept this fact, things become little easy.
Health is Wealth: Most of things in our life which are available for free and in abundance are usuallly the ones we pay less heed to. Water, Air, Sunlight, Nature are few things which are prime basis of a living and a form of nurturing and we become so possesed with our mechanical life that we undervalue our core exisence and its relative connection with the very nature.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha
I understood the true importance of a healthy body only after I was hard hit by a chronic illnes which broke me inside out and financially too. The burden was such that it caused me a five inch deep depression inside my soul. Imagine, I was fighting with two demons inside me,tumors and depression.
I came out well, I survived but the duration of treament taught me a great lesson, TAKE CARE of your precious body. Its not that I do not exercise or try to adhere to a healthy lifestyle but sometimes we take our health very casually and it results in huge damage.
I started valuing the nature, the greenery, each blooming flower all the more once I was well, I saw the sun, I saw the birds like I was seeing them for the first time,perhaps with a different mindset now.
Who holds your back: NO ONE!! I can say it loud and clear. There will be times when you feel all elated and overwhelmed for having such wonderful people in your life and some time in a different sitaution of your life you might find them the most awful bunch of people you chose to stay with.
“It takes nothing to join the crowd, it takes everything to stand alone”
If life is journey as they say, we will find so many people in our path. Some join us to make our path little easy and some come to block our ways and their ways of doing so could be different in differnt situation. We just have to continue to belive in ourselves and continue to walk without letting anything influence our mind.
What I learned from my experience was that too much dependency on anyone hurts. Being self-dependent is the best gift anyone could give to self. It takes efforts, it takes a little time but it works wonder when one takes charge of their complete life.
Not everyone will undersatnd your intentions, so stop explaining yourself: Now this is very important and let me tell you I learned this one in a very harsh and hard manner. Ever since I started writing, it was clear that I have chosen a different path, which not many understands and for many it doesn’t even exists.
Some presume me as a show off or full of superiorty complex while some try to mock me down for portraying myself as someone who I am not. I took it very close to my heart, so close that it caused me a terrible ache, I cried, I questioned myself but I was sure of my intentions and my hard work.
“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” – Paulo Coehlo
I gave myself few hours, few days and I took time to fold myself in and learnd this very great lesson and thanked the person to alert me of showing what I don’t want to be. YES, I don’t wan to stop here, I want to work more, write more and succeed more,even if it is at snails speed rate I am fine with it.
Dare someone question my intentions now. I learnd that not everyone will undersatnd what you are doing and why you are doing it. Explaining them something they don’t know even exist is like banging your head on the wall, you get hurt and they enjoy. I learned this one real hard.
You can’t keep everyone happy: Unless you are jar of nutella or a chocolate laden ice-cream, but wait I think not everyone likes them too. Jokes apart, the very basis of human nature in this pursuasion of anyting is to get appreciated or make others happy.
We start a new venture we want our friends and family members to join in. They are first one who gets the information, we celebrate our victories with them. But the problem begins when you start achieving milestones, climb few ladders and move ahead in your journey you find many of them being envious of what you become in the long run.
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
You follow what works best for you, you have chosen something in your life which gives you a purpose to get up every morning and just because few nut heads are not happy with what you are doing will you stop doing it or will you cut lose your ties with such toxic people in your life?
This could be a very vital decison to make as I have experience that the bar graph of my friends have only come down by my each passing year starting from 2016 when I was fighting my illness.
Tough times or tough people, I guess only few things last forever. I took these few lessons in my stride and I try to learn and I try to grow daily. I have stopped explaining myself to others for what I do and why do.
I keep low key and mind my own business. Writing helps me to relive and thats what I do and get connected with a differnt world outside my purview.
Thank you all for reading me 🙂
Also read : Growing up in 90’s
Much love and gratitude♥