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Three things I have learned in two years of Blogging

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Blogging gives you wings and trust me when I say this 🙂

I have been blogging over two years and today I will be sharing a little bit of my trials and errors, and some learnings from my Blogging journey.

Blogging has given me not only a career option but a voice to inform, inspire and connect with amazing people from every corner of the world.

When I created my blog over two years ago, little did I knew that it holds an enromous potential to groom yourself, polish yourself as a writer, invoke reading habits, connect with people worldwide and also has money making potential.

Yes we can earn through Blogging, I belive this today because I see people around me earning through blogging through various means like Affiliate Marketing, Sponsored Post and also Content Writing.

Every blogger has a different story about how they started, what was the inspiration, how they motivate themselves to write daily and above all how they didn’t give up on blogging.

Bloggers are not just bloggers anymore. Many of them have become Motivational coaches, Business strategists, Published Authors, Entreprenerus and Digital coaches just by being consistent.


My Story of Blogging

For initial one year I was very very inconsistent and was hesitant to share my content on Social Media platforms.

It was only one year back I started writing religiously. I made a commitment to write daily and adopted a disciplined way of going about it.

Suddenly blogging was not just a void filling thing for me, infact it became THE THING for me. The more I created a blog post,the more I wanted to write and share my voice with the world.

It helped me find a purpose, I learned basics of SEO, learned about sharing on various Social Media platforms and working on building quality content.

Even though I am still a new blogger because I have a long way to go till the day I can call myself an established blogger and guide anyone from scratch to build a blog.

But I surely have my story to tell which could help new bloggers to learn and avoid few practises. So how Blogging opens the door to a career? Here are my three cents from my expereince:

Blogging gave me an my identity

Honestly I don’t leverage the term Mom Blogger because it gives me feeling that people think blogging is something a woman gets into after become a mom and they are not very serious about it.

Although Blogging has become a second choice of career for many mothers around the world but any woman who pens down her experiences, learning and passion is definetly serious about it.

It is just that blogging is still a foreign land for many, maximum number of people who blog they just write and share and yes with the advent of hard core publicity by the digital gurus now people know that we can earn from blogging. But we are still clueless on “how” part.

We can earn from blogging but not right after creating the blog. A lot of dedication, consistency and a little amount of investment in the terms of buying the domain, server space is needed.

Then this e-ball is in our court to take it ahead or leave it there. In the end unless and untill our blog have visitors (organic and only organic) and viewership or readership our boat won’t sail through this deep and wide ocean.

Also read: How to start a Blog?

Blogging taught me Patience

When in my first year of blogging I felt left out and decided to be more consistent, trust me that was the time I started growing, because I was open to learn.

I hardly had 4k stats last year, today I have 33k blog stats. Which is obviously not that great to toot my own trumpet. But I could exactly gauge what was working and what was not. Here is what worked for me:

  1. Writing regularly, atleast five posts in a week
  2. Providing informative and quality content, with proper structured layout.
  3. Expressing gratitude and being grateful for every reader and follower.

It is like what you sow is what you reap. You have put a plant in your living room just because you like it, you stare at it daily and feel bad when you don’t see it grow. But did you water it daily? Did your nurture it daily?

[bctt tweet=”Same is the case with your passion, when you fuel your passion with a purpose it starts working for you.” username=”@VirtualSiyahi”]

Do not follow the Rat-race

She posted, he posted, I posted too. Trust me Blogging world is full of competition because it is an open field. A public place.

Refrain from following the rat-race. Do not stress on Social Media followers and fans because they don’t stick by.

Post what you like, what you love to do, promote your work but don’t fall for it.

Have you recently read the news about the Instagram celebs with highest fake followers?

Wherein it states that Bollywood actors Deepika Padukone and Priyanka Chopra Jonas are among the 10 celebrities who have maximum numbers of fake followers or “bots” on Instagram.

We go aww-struck by the numbers, we want to flaunt the followers because this has become a culture.

I see so many people with very less following and a large chunk of the followers. I can consider the ratio for the celebrities, entrpreneurs or some exceptional personalities.

But what about the others, they too fall prey for this whole Influencer Culture. Showing off that they have got so many followers and they are following only few.

You know what they do, they unfollow you after sometime, they filter out, they prioritize their followers. Why do we need to serve them?

I unfollow everyone who does this to me, I return the favour sincerely.

Just be present on every platform to gain visibility to promote your stuff, be regular, connect with your followers but never run after followers.

When you will create amazing content people will search you on Google Serach Engine and follow you automatically.

Work on yourself, success has got no shortcuts. What is the use of the increased numbers when they don’t even respond to your posts.

Instead channelize your energy towards building your profile, good content and engage with your genuine readers which you will find only on your blog.


Final Words

  • Identify your niche and try sticking to it.
  • Interact with your readers.
  • Read other blogs as well, connect with amazing bloggers you never knew existed.
  • Learn about SEO (Search Engine Optimization), Keywords, Image attributes.
  • Write descriptive and informative posts. (atelast 1000 words)
  • Write for google and not for Facebook or Intagrammers.
  • Write beacuse you love to write and you have a passion to write.
  • Read books, it helps to improve writing skills.
  • Seek help with a professional if you ever get stuck, do not experiment with your blog.
  • Build your content, your niche, your blog and it will build you.
  • Patience and cosistency.

Happy Blogging 🙂

Much love and gratitude



Social Media Handles and Mental Health

Hey, you on Facebook? On Instagram or Twitter?

How many followers you have? Look what I posted. See how many likes I got?

All this and much more. If we Pause and reflect we are heading towards a dead end.

We all are well aware of the pros and cons of Social Media. How it’s effective usage can help us grow and keep ourselves updated and how the over usage in an ineffective manner can lead to a bad experience and Social Media Anxiety.

If you ask me, Social Media for me is my Work Place, I respect other’s privacy, give proper credits and admiration to other’s content and I try to adopt the best available practices which can help me learn and grow.

I have always tested my addiction level by adopting Social Media Detox on frequent Intervals. Today I would like to share my views and my experience with all the Social Media Applications I use.


I started using WhatsApp in 2011, a great way to communicate and share images, documents, videos with our friends and family members in the most convenient manner. Everything was good but when the Status Update feature came into the picture thinks took a different shape, and to top that there is an option where you can actually make out who is watching your updates and yet not commenting on your activities.

I usually upload my daughter’s photos, updates related to my work or any beautiful quote I come across. I do it just for myself, not for the people around and I don’t go sneak into everyone’s status updates unless I have all the time in the world.

I experienced a few horrible incidents where-in just because I did not see few status updates I was labeled as ignorant or when I post my little achievement then I get so negative vibes from few people saying that I keep on promoting myself. Such incidents just show how a person behaves on such petty things in life.

I uninstall WhatsApp on regular intervals just for my peace of mind, I hardly circulate my number, and I only stay in groups which could help me laugh, grow and enjoy.

Few people live on Social Media and few people use it to make their living, there is a huge difference.


Facebook is an old friend, but here also I had my share of struggles initially when I started writing and posting my blog links, no one visited. Probably no one understood or welcomed the whole idea of me switching to a blogging world.

Later on, I created my Blog page entirely dedicated to Virtual Siyahi (my blog), very happily I announced it everywhere and send invites to all my friends and followers. Hardly anyone showed up or responded and as a beginner, I felt dejected, but patience paid off and I started getting recognition for my work.


It was and it is still a foreign land for me, I could never understand which hashtag works for me. But I post my quotes, poetries on my page regularly. eventually, I faced the very famous, Follow to Follow, Follow then Unfollow trend and trust me I hated it when I figured out the whole logic and cheap games people play just to gain few followers.

The whole influencer trend is ruining the beauty of the content and I started unfollowing everyone who followed me, waited for me to follow then unfollowed me, I mean seriously? am I such a waste of time? Just for the information of the readers, there are apps available which help us to identify such content killers. Beware!

Also read: What is this follow to unfollow?


I joined twitter very late but I find it very interactive and easy to use, you can post anything, retweet the content you like. Again I think the hashtag mania works here and I take it easy while I experiment with the hashtags to expand my reach as a mental health awareness blogger.


The most difficult friend of mine is my Youtube Channel, I would admit that I don’t put much effort on my channel. I still lack views and audience on my channel and initially few months it used to dishearten me, but eventually, I learned that after doing around 30 videos, now I am a confident speaker, my camera fear is gone, I can complete my Vlog in one shot.

I don’t stress on editing and prefer to keep it simple maybe that’s the reason my growth rate is slow but trust me what all comments and feedback I get I am happy with that because they are genuine and I am forming my tribe, they are people who appreciate my efforts and it means a lot to me.

Blog – My Forever Happy Place

When I get bugged, get disappointed from everywhere else I find solace in my Blog and that’s the reason I call it my Happy Place. I have stopped counting my followers and I have started focusing on building friends, long term connection with my readers and they come to my blog, they give me their valuable feedback and I feel accomplished.

I have found some amazing friends in my blog followers list and I am thankful to them for being there for me always.

There could be end number of possibilities people don’t react to what you do, so don’t pay attention just continue to be yourself, if you believe in your work then you will gain your audience, you will build your tribe.

My message to everyone reading this post: Do not focus on building followers, focus on building your tribe as they will always feed you with the positive vibe.

I would like to share a very beautiful reminder inspired by Rinki Tiwari’s Instagram feed:

You have no idea how many people lurk on your work. No idea how many times people go back to revisit your work. How big they smile when they simply think about your work. How fast their heartbeats, how excited they get when they see you posted something.

People are shy about their feedback. Sometimes it’s because they are simply shy. Other times it’s because they assume you already know how great and talented you are or maybe they just don’t understand what you are doing, sometimes it could be due to the language barrier and also due to priorities.

My point is even if you barely have any likes, comments, followers or reblogs, don’t get discouraged, don’t lose your heart. You have a lot of silent fans, but they are still your fans.

Keep on creating amazing content. Because there is always someone who is waiting for your post and who loves your content genuinely 🙂

Keep it simple. Be original and never fall into the comparison zone, as you never know how the journey of a person would have been. Happy Blogging 🙂

Much Love and Gratitude