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A Train to Memory Lane

Train travels are always nostalgic. It brings you back to a memory lane you have once visited in your life.

I clearly remember that day, when I first wrote about something while traveling on a train. I was hardly 7 or 8-year-old. We were headed towards Punjab and as the train slowed down while it crossed through the yellow garland of nature (Sarso ke khet) I could not stop admiring nature’s beauty.

It was all green and yellow everywhere, a natural pleasure to the eyes, the breath of fresh air and the raw essence are unforgettable.

I have always been a nature lover and I was so mesmerized with the scene that I wanted to stop, get down from the train and admire the beauty a little more. And that was the first time I asked Deda (my father) to lend me his notepad and a pen as I wanted to write about what I had witnessed, I wanted to capture that moment in words. I wanted to define beauty in my own words.

I scribbled something about the beautiful experience, and I didn’t realize when I fell asleep and when I woke up, I hurried to find my little notepad, which slipped from my hands while I was asleep. I picked it up abruptly and by that time I was already at my destination.

Back in 90’s we were not blessed with the phone with camera, neither the usage of the camera was so much in trend, but trust me when I say this, I still have that image clicked in my mind, which no mobile phone would have been able to hold and take backup for over two decades.

Today I am 34, and again I am traveling from the train, crossing similar destinations. It’s 9;00 pm, while I am writing this blog and all I could see is a view full of darkness outside from the window. And it reminded of this small incident. It also led to me thinking about a few things, which could be termed as late-night thoughts, traveling thoughts or fleeting thoughts. But read it carefully.

As we grow adult we see things differently, maybe there is still that wreath of yellow flowers behind this darkness, may the flowers are as fresh and fragile like it were before but we have stopped looking at the brighter side, we have stopped smelling the roses and appreciating it’s beauty.

We have put layers and layers of conditioning within us, we see things opposite to what it is. And that is living un-mindfully. A tender soul once saw beauty even in darkness as it held light intact within itself and it basked in its’s own glory, diffusing the shrines of its mindful abduction.

Now we can hardly observe anything mindfully, we capture so many things that we forget to seize the moment. Carpe Diem, it is! We deliberately do things so that we can create memories, we live in a superficial world, which is built by excessive conditioning, parameters, judegmentality, expectations, and renunciations.

Train Journeys now and then

A lot has changed in these two decades. I remember while just traveling through trains people found so many friends, even my mom and dad end up making friends with the co-passengers in the journey, sharing food, talking about kids, and sharing seats, it was all random act of kindness of signs that there existed humanity.

Today all I see is that 90% of my co-passengers have deeply buried their heads in their mobile phones, somebody is watching a series at Amazon Prime or maybe Netflix, with earphone tucked and laughing on its own. A lady sitting opposite me is watching videos on YouTube.

An old uncle is playing is candy crush in his mobile and having a gala time. A young man is simply gawking at his mobile phone since long, don’t know what he is trying to see in it.

The most urgent thing a guy did as soon as he entered the train coach was to find a mobile charging point, for that he was ready to give up his own seat so that he can grab a seat closest to the charging point.

Now my concern, what will happen when all these people who are enjoying their respective entertainment channel in their palm-sized world, will exhaust its power and will run for the charging point, in case they are not carrying their power supply bank? BOOM!

I wish I could capture the pics of the actual scene here and put it in this blog, but I will be killed if by any chance this post went viral, LOL.

My daughter is fast asleep, and I just could not resist writing something as I gazed out of the window. It is still dark, I cannot see anything behind the darkness, but yes, I have this known faith that when I will get up in the morning it will be only a sky sonorous of sunshine waiting for me with a different perspective.

I enjoyed writing this post, hope you all enjoy reading this post as well.

Now let me sign off for the day and keep my belongings safe before I sleep, as a few things (public stealing) are still unchanged while traveling.

Much love and gratitude

Priyanka Nair

Five things I learned while growing up

We learn and we grow, I say this all the time to everyone I meet, to everyone I try to encourage and follow their passion. Growing up is not giving up.

Albert Einstein said that “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Hence I test my abilities for myself. I trust in my instincts and I follow my heart.

I listen to everyone, thanks to all the people around us who freely give their unsolicited advices, trying to mock us down with their flare and sometimes they manage to freak us out, but I take NONE.

I write a lot, I read and I even have my YouTube Channel where you will find me speaking a lot but when I am in public I prefer being an observant, I listen and mind my own business.

I meet many people who are good at many things and they so unconvinicingly boast about themselves and their achievements. I can never put my plate full of medals in front of everyone because I believe in being a woman of action and not words.

Here are five things I have learned in last few years which has changed my outlook, perspective and preference.

Priyanka Nair

Five things I learned while growing up

Nothing lasts forever: I think even permanent is not permanent. Things change, people change, situation change and our willingness to acceptance towards any of these elements needs to be changed time to time, only for us to live at peace.

” There is nothing permanent except change”

I had a cool group of friends but as I moved ahead in my career, my new endevours were not much appreciated or welcomed, rather were criticised and mocked up. I was too determined to let it go, my career and instead I let them go.

With the mindset that we think that people will stay forever is one of the major culprit in our life, we let anyone enter easily but when they exit, they leave a vaccum beyond repair. Once we accept this fact, things become little easy.

Health is Wealth: Most of things in our life which are available for free and in abundance are usuallly the ones we pay less heed to. Water, Air, Sunlight, Nature are few things which are prime basis of a living and a form of nurturing and we become so possesed with our mechanical life that we undervalue our core exisence and its relative connection with the very nature.

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha

I understood the true importance of a healthy body only after I was hard hit by a chronic illnes which broke me inside out and financially too. The burden was such that it caused me a five inch deep depression inside my soul. Imagine, I was fighting with two demons inside me,tumors and depression.

I came out well, I survived but the duration of treament taught me a great lesson, TAKE CARE of your precious body. Its not that I do not exercise or try to adhere to a healthy lifestyle but sometimes we take our health very casually and it results in huge damage.

I started valuing the nature, the greenery, each blooming flower all the more once I was well, I saw the sun, I saw the birds like I was seeing them for the first time,perhaps with a different mindset now.

Who holds your back: NO ONE!! I can say it loud and clear. There will be times when you feel all elated and overwhelmed for having such wonderful people in your life and some time in a different sitaution of your life you might find them the most awful bunch of people you chose to stay with.

“It takes nothing to join the crowd, it takes everything to stand alone”

If life is journey as they say, we will find so many people in our path. Some join us to make our path little easy and some come to block our ways and their ways of doing so could be different in differnt situation. We just have to continue to belive in ourselves and continue to walk without letting anything influence our mind.

What I learned from my experience was that too much dependency on anyone hurts. Being self-dependent is the best gift anyone could give to self. It takes efforts, it takes a little time but it works wonder when one takes charge of their complete life.

Not everyone will undersatnd your intentions, so stop explaining yourself: Now this is very important and let me tell you I learned this one in a very harsh and hard manner. Ever since I started writing, it was clear that I have chosen a different path, which not many understands and for many it doesn’t even exists.

Some presume me as a show off or full of superiorty complex while some try to mock me down for portraying myself as someone who I am not. I took it very close to my heart, so close that it caused me a terrible ache, I cried, I questioned myself but I was sure of my intentions and my hard work.

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” – Paulo Coehlo

I gave myself few hours, few days and I took time to fold myself in and learnd this very great lesson and thanked the person to alert me of showing what I don’t want to be. YES, I don’t wan to stop here, I want to work more, write more and succeed more,even if it is at snails speed rate I am fine with it.

Dare someone question my intentions now. I learnd that not everyone will undersatnd what you are doing and why you are doing it. Explaining them something they don’t know even exist is like banging your head on the wall, you get hurt and they enjoy. I learned this one real hard.

You can’t keep everyone happy: Unless you are jar of nutella or a chocolate laden ice-cream, but wait I think not everyone likes them too. Jokes apart, the very basis of human nature in this pursuasion of anyting is to get appreciated or make others happy.

We start a new venture we want our friends and family members to join in. They are first one who gets the information, we celebrate our victories with them. But the problem begins when you start achieving milestones, climb few ladders and move ahead in your journey you find many of them being envious of what you become in the long run.

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

You follow what works best for you, you have chosen something in your life which gives you a purpose to get up every morning and just because few nut heads are not happy with what you are doing will you stop doing it or will you cut lose your ties with such toxic people in your life?

This could be a very vital decison to make as I have experience that the bar graph of my friends have only come down by my each passing year starting from 2016 when I was fighting my illness.

Tough times or tough people, I guess only few things last forever. I took these few lessons in my stride and I try to learn and I try to grow daily. I have stopped explaining myself to others for what I do and why do.

I keep low key and mind my own business. Writing helps me to relive and thats what I do and get connected with a differnt world outside my purview.

Thank you all for reading me 🙂

Also read : Growing up in 90’s

Much love and gratitude♥

Priyanka

#virtualsiyahi

Emotional Rubbish

Important Lesson!!!!

There is such a thing as Emotional rubbish, it is produced in the factories of the mind. It consists of pain that has long since passed and is no longer useful. It consists of precautions that were important in the past, but that serves no purpose in present.

The warrior has memories too, but he learns how to separate the useful from the unnecessary, he disposes of his emotional rubbish.

A companion says,” But that’s part of my history. Why should I jettison feelings that marked my very existence?

The warrior smiles, but he does not try to feel things that he no longer feels. He is changing and he wants his feelings to keep pace with him.

 

Reference: Manual of the Warrior of Light –  Paulo Coehlo

Much love and gratitude

Priyanka

#VirtualSiyahi