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A Perfect Day Of An Imperfect Mother- Picture Blog

A day of a mother. How do you think we spend our days? Watching saas-bahu drama or actually indulging in it? Gossiping? Spending time at social media or simply lazying around and doing nothing?

Women are always judged on their abilities on the basis of set standards. You are a good wife if you cook good food, keep your house clean and well-organized. You are a good mother if your kids are well-behaved and well-groomed. All the wows and hows are restricted to the woman of the house. Forget about the societal norms and judgment a mother or wife goes through in her entire life. So ladies, on a funny note, let’s give a hilarious twist to our day and have a good laugh at our flawsomeness.

This blog is entirely dedicated to all the mothers who manage all their day to day chores and make it a point to spend some quality time with their kids. A day of a mother could vary from mother to mother. Yes! Some are staying at home moms while some are working, but I am sure every mom tries her best to take out some time to cuddle and pamper her child, and that is what strengthens the relationship of both,  isn’t it?

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A Day of a Mother at Glance

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Our perfect day starts usually around 6:00 am with the rhetorical line uth jao beta school jana hai, naha lo beta to kha lo beta.. This is how even I start my day and my beta usually gets up after half an hour of my morning raga. I try to hug her, wake her up with a smile and kiss her so that she starts a day with a positive note. The day when she throws tantrum and doesn’t want to have a bath or finish her milk is the day when I get pissed off and feel bad of not treating her well that morning, that sadness remains with me the entire day and I wait for her to come home so that I can hug her.

A day of a mother

Main ghar aagya, the very famous line of our beloved (pun intended) Nobita (Doraemon) is the line my daughter says when she arrives home from school and then begins the drama. What have you got for snacks, oh daily same snacks, from all the available things in the kitchen she would ask for something which is not available in the house and then I am the bad mama who doesn’t keep stock of her favorite things. A day of a mother.Sigh..

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Mom, what are you doing, can we play UNO? Can I comb your hair? Can you play Monopoly with me, she attacks me with her list of game ideas. Sometimes when she is not in the mood and wants to watch her favorite T.V. shows, she allows me to work, yes she is too kind actually ( no pun intended) on my laptop but I have to sit right beside her. Mama, you sit here with me, you work and I will watch T.V., she says.

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Then comes the D Day, Holiday. Perils of moms who work from home are never considered to be like a working mom, especially moms who have taken blogging or freelancing work as their career path are not even considered as working at all. They are someone who is always online, posting things on social media and then judgment like who takes care of the kid? How she manages her house and all? So basically we lose all the social contact and yet juggle and struggle a lot to take out some peaceful time to sit with our thoughts and laptop to pen (type) down something and when it is a holiday we even sacrifice our sleep so that we do not disturb our child’s routine. We maintain the pyramid, see.

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The reward: I was working full-time even after Ishaanvi was born and it is only from three years I gave up my job and found my IKIGAI in Blogging world, ever since I have been moving ahead in the career path I have choosen for myself for two reasons: My daughter and my daughter. Many of my friends and relatives criticised me saying that I should have been working but my daughter needed me in her growth years and meanwhile, I discovered a new path for myself, most importantly, my daughter is happy to see her mother by her side at her every step.

A day of a mother

We spent a lot of wonderful time, we fight, we argue, we laugh, we play, we read, we write and we dream together. As I grow as a mother daily, I have discovered that I am raising a human being who I am not supposed to control or command. While raising a human in her, I just want a friend and want to travel places along with her. With this thought, I start and end my day.

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In the end, I would say that there are days when I feel extremely low or I don’t feel like playing or having fun and I tell her that mama is not feeling good today, I even cry in front of her because I want her to believe that staying strong is not the only acceptable norm, you can be weak, you can be strong, you can laugh, you can cry and I intend to make her accept all the beauty and flaws of life. We bloom as mother daughter in our imperfections and manage to smile in every situation. She even meditates and does yoga with me, we end our day over bargaining a glass of milk over a story or a ten-minute mobile game.

This is how motherhood looks to me and for many mothers. A day of a mother is full of flaws, adjustments, priorities, decision-making, sacrifices, and learning. No mother is perfect and I feel it should be the way it is, the day we feel we have become perfect we will stop growing and close the doors of new options/learnings in our life which will take away the child in us forever.

Much love and gratitude

Priyanka and Ishaanvi 🙂

Mental Health Awareness Series ~ Episode -12- Kushal Singhal

Welcome to the twelfth episode of Humanity ki chain, Mental Health Awareness Series with Kushal Singhal.

The importance of being aware and being able to understand the need for mental health awareness is all we need to stress upon. It is important that we talk about Mental Illness and how we as a society can join together to fight against the stigmas attached to it.

The twelfth guest joining us today is Kushal Singhal. Kushal is a passionate mom blogger, a successful parenting coach, a stay at home mom to 2 kids. Founder of Cafewhiz. And also the founder of her new blog called Mom Chipper for SAHMs to reclaim their lost space in the world.

She is also an artisan bread baker and calls herself a life long learner. Understanding the issues that women face in present times, she feels & writes passionately about Moms and raising kids.

She has been published at Naaree, Women’s web, YKA, Momspresso & other online platforms for her amazing work.

Blog Links –

Mom Chipper – https://www.momchipper.com/about-me/

Cafewhiz- https://cafewhiz.com

Her social media handles:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kushal.singhal.71

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momchipper/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Momchipper

This Mental health awareness series is a small attempt from my side to spread some mental health awareness and enable people to talk. The more we talk about it, the more we will be able to break the stigmas attached to it.

Mental Health is as important as Physical Health and it is not possible to drive a massive change alone, so let’s join together and spread some positivity.

Be a part (kadi) of this Humanity ki chain. Contact me – priyanka@sanitydaily.com

Thanks.

Priyanka Nair

Founder

http://www.sanitydaily.com

http://www.priyankaspen.com

Do Not Stare, We Are Breastfeeding Our Baby


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Do not stare, we are just breastfeeding our baby! High time we speak about the importance of breastfeeding, and the taboos surrounding it.

In lieu of the #WorldBreastfeedingWeek2019, I just want to contribute my writings in a reminder that breastfeeding might be a mother’s task but it is everyone’s responsibility in order to provide a private and secure environment for the new mothers.

Some Facts and Figures:

According to the World Health Organization, Breastfeeding promotes better health for mothers and children alike. Increasing breastfeeding to near-universal levels could save more than 800 000 lives every year, the majority being children under 6 months.

Breastfeeding in public is not illegal and is not indecent exposure at all. I have heard of mothers getting negative comments and nasty looks when breastfeeding in public. Hence I conducted a survey on 50 real women around me.

Below is the graphical representation to my question, based on the four categories I tried to understand what do they think of a woman breastfeeding in public?

While the majority of women found it natural means to suffice her baby’s hunger, there were few women who found it extremely awful feeding a baby in public. They said they would rather sit at home or give them a bottle instead of facing embarrassment in public places.

When a woman is breastfeeding she is feeding her hungry baby. Breastfeeding in public tends to be controversial and eye-catching just because of the sexuality attached to it. Women are certainly not going to stay cooped up at home all the time thinking their baby might ask for feed when they are out.

We will have to step out to buy groceries or medicines someday and that hunger alarm can buzz anytime. Like many other mothers, I have fed my baby in the store of a Grocery shop, Shopping mall trial room and also in washroom once.

What happens when the supermodels and actresses, pose for the renowned magazines revealing their body, nobody makes foul faces and calls it disgrace to the culture and this breastfeeding is something natural, a need, a baby is hungry she needs her feed, would you like to have your lunch in the washroom, storeroom or trapped inside a cloth?

Personal Experience:

I understand and very much agree with the fact that we need to cover ourselves while feeding, but my point here is that we need to differentiate between something natural and something fancy. I have breastfed my baby for almost two years and trust me once at a temple also, I was with my six-seven other female relatives. My baby was seven months old and she woke from her sleep and started crying, I had to feed her. I saw a side corner wherein I would have easily grabbed five minutes with my little one. Instead, all the ladies asked me to sit at the stairs and they all covered me making a circle which obviously gave me the unneeded attention.

Although they were helping me out I just wanted to run from the place.

Conclusion:

No matter how badly we are suggested and adviced to breastfeed our baby for at least six months of her age we also need to bring it to the notice of society that we need a secure place first.

With paid maternity leave, paid paternity leave should also be encouraged and acted upon. This will only lead to an environment of shared responsibility for caring for the child and nurturing relationships.

New mothers can look out for parent-friendly workplace options to continue breastfeeding or at least having access to breastfeeding breaks. A demand for a safe, private, and hygienic space for expressing and storing breastmilk; and affordable childcare is not too much to ask for.

Many mothers quit their job as soon as they enter their motherhood anticipating the challenges she would be facing in initial years. Just by adopting a few measures and helping a woman sustain her identity by providing necessary access will change many lives.

It will only lead to a better workplace, better productivity in women and the decline in work rate of women might as well reduce.

P.S: Also published at Momspresso

Much love and gratitude

Priyanka Nair

Virtual Siyahi